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Friday, July 26, 2019

Listening Is

Listening is

Creating space
For others
To talk in detail
For as long as they need to
About their splinter
While you
Sit across from them
With broken bones
 
Listening is
Having something to add
But purposely refraining
Because the other person
Needs to talk
More than you
Need to be heard

Listening is letting someone
Tell you how they feel
Without telling them
How you feel about
What they are telling you

It is
Sitting quietly, patiently
For half hour, an hour, or more
While someone shares
The big and small details of their lives
And not being asked
Any details
About yours

It’s attempting to interject
Into a conversation
That has required your full listening ears
A tiny portion
Of what you want to share
Only to find  
That the other person
Isn’t listening
 
It is the realization
That others
Consider you
To be an endless reservoir
For their stories and their pain

Unaware that you struggle
Constantly
To find ways
To fill your own cup

Listening is sacrificing
What you want
To give someone else
What they need

Listening is rare
Because it is hard
And we are all
So hungry
To be heard
 
Listening
Is so
Exhausting

And still
It is worth it
Every time

Monday, July 8, 2019

How To Change The World

Be interested
In others
 
Ask with intent to listen
Listen with intent to learn

Slow down
And show people
That they matter
 
Give your time
And attention
Away freely
 
Care about
And for

The people
That cross
Your path

Walk toward
And not away from
Their pain
 
Nurture them
With kind words
And presence
 
This is how
To bridge
The distance
 
This is how
To change
The world 

Heart Breaks A Little

How you do it is
Your heart breaks a little
Every day
 
Some days less
Some days more
 
But daily
It breaks

Daily
You gather up
Your brokenness

Daily
With your brokenness
You rise


Come Around

No discussion
No intent
To understand
 
Just do you
Believe yet
Exactly as
I do

And if not
I don’t need
To know more

But I will
Check in
Again later
 
To see
If you’ve
Come around 

Sunday, June 2, 2019

My Hope

My hope
As I leave places
That have shared themselves
With me
 
Is that
I’ve left something
Of value
There too
 
At the very least left
An abundance of kindness
And gentle companionship
In that place

So that
It’s clear
We are one

All pieces of each other

Spread widely

Yet connected

And whole

Lead

When you lead
With your heart
 
Your heart
Brave and open
Can be hurt
 
Can be humbled
To sometimes
Find itself wrong

Yet also can be
A wise and steady guide

When you lead
With your head 

Your head
Measured and logical
Can be distant

Can be sensible
But rigid
In its perception

Yet also can be
A wise and steady guide

And we need it all

Our heart’s callings
Our head’s cautions

Different doses
In different seasons
Or equal measures
Always

Both though
To guide us well

To show us the way

Sunday, April 21, 2019

Over It

My Sunday mornings
Look different
Than yours
 
I pray
In ways
You don’t recognize

I don’t
Use the words
That assure you
I’m “in”

My life
No longer meets
Your approval

And I’m over it

Because my soul is full
My heart is at peace and
I live true
 
And as we each walk
In the direction
Our hearts lead
 
Perhaps someday
 
If there is interest

We can share the stories
Of our journeys

Things learned
On unique roads


That otherwise
Would never
Be known

Monday, April 1, 2019

Outgrown

It happens subtly
Sometimes takes years

Things get too tight

Clothes
Ideas
Jobs

Things no longer fit

And must be
Given away
Updated
Left
 
What’s been outgrown
Must be
Left behind
 
So there is space
To breathe
Again

How Tender

How tender are
The hearts
Just below the surface
Of those
Who are strong

How strong are
The souls
Just below the surface
Of those
Who are broken

How tender and
How strong
The hearts and souls
Of us all